If you are unable to access the site and have a legitimate gripe about it please feel free to contact us. There have been a few people spamming old harvested emails from the site from before they were encoded and I have set some pretty broad IP blacklist ranges to prevent this from affecting the good people who use The Date List.

If you get a spam email from an ad please forward it to abuse [at] thedatelist [.] com (without the [] and at=@) so we can take care of it for you.

The email links on each ad are encoded so that they cannot be harvested by spammers.

To respond to an ad using an email client (outlook, outlook express, thunderbird, etc.) on your PC or Mac just click on the link.

To respond to an ad using a web based email client (Yahoo!, Gmail, Hotmail, etc.) copy the link and ad the site name at the end of the email. For instance if the Reply To link says pers-#### for an ad on TheDateList you would add @thedatelist.com to the end making pers-####@thedatelist.com. The #s being the ads post number. For the CollegeDateList you would add @collegedatelist.com and for the GayDateList you add @gaydatelist.com.

If you need further assistance feel free to contact us.

It appears there are 1 or 2 spammers harvesting the anonymous email links on our sites and then sending spam to them. From what we can see most of this is ending up in spam/junk email boxes and not reaching your inbox but to be proactive we will be encoding these email links (I will post when this has been completed). What does this mean? Well, for one the link will more than likely say “click here to respond to this ad” rather than pers-####@thedatelist.com as it does now.

Now comes the question of using web based email clients like Yahoo as there is no longer an email address to copy and paste into your Yahoo email. Until a feasible solution is found you will need to click the link which will open the email client on your PC and then copy the email address from there. While that is not an ideal solution it will keep the spammers at bay for now. We will continue to work to make a better solution to this. It may also be in your benefit to use Gmail and have that email read by your email client on your PC and also allowing you to respond to ads using your Gmail email address without having to copy an paste.

To get a Gmail account click on this link - www.gmail.com. For explanation of how to get your mail on your PC using Gmail do the following - create the email account > login to the email account > click on settings > click on the Forwarding and POP tab > select Enable POP only for mail that arrives from now on > click save changes. Also, on the Forwarding and POP page you will see a link for configuration instructions - click on it and then select the email client you have on your PC to configure it to get the mail from Gmail.

I sometimes get an email asking how our sites work. To help you out a “how to” page has been added. Click here to view it or click the tab in the header of the page.

A picture is worth a 1000 words and will also get you at least ten times the responses. With that being said, there are some pics that do NOT work to your benefit.

- men, a pic of your genitals are really a turn off to a lady looking to hook-up.
- old pics that do not look like you are good for memories sake but not good to represent how you look.
- fake pics. Hopefully, an explanation is not needed.

What pics work the best?

- A recent face pic (please smile).
- A full body shot (clothed).

What pics are prohibited?

- any pic with graphic sex or object penetration.
- a pic of you with your friends in it. They did not approve their photo to be posted by you.
- copyrighted images you do not own the copyright for.

Happy Posting!

Passwords and emails ARE case sensitive. IF you post an ad on The Date List or the Gay Date List and enter your email as Someone@somedomain.com that is how it is recorded by our site. Now, if you forget your password and go to use the password recover link, which is located directly under the body of your posted ad, and were to enter your email as someone@somedomain.com (with out the first ’s’ capitalized) the script will tell you that the email does not match the email on record.

Responses stay on the site as long as your ad is live which is 60 days. Once the ad has been deleted so are the responses.

Ads remain live on the site for 60 days. After that they are deleted.

We have added the reply box right under the ad itself to make it very easy to repond to ads. Just fill it out and send it. Good luck!

Posting an ad is very easy. There are links that say post in the header and footer of the site on ever page and on the home page there is a huge post an ad link. Once you click on it just fill in the boxes and submit it. The next page is a review page. Read over your ad and check to make sure everything is good. THE MOST COMMON MISTAKE IS POSTING TO THE WRONG CATEGORY. Once you are sure it is correct submit it and you are done. An email is automatically sent to you with the password to access responses to your ad.